New year resolution? Nah. This year, I’m going to do this and I’m not going to do that. I really need to bring my A-game on or I need to add more or lose weight and the list is endless or as we know it, new year resolution’s list seems endless. Moreover, it is known statistically that about 92% of new year goals fail within a month and the truth from Einstein is ‘the definition of insanity is doing the same thing over and over again, but expecting different results’.
It’s not Thursday but I guess I want to do a little throwback to the earlier part of this year. I for one while starting 2018 didn’t deem it necessary to write a new year resolution for 2018 and the reason is that I was accumulated as part of the 92% whose new year resolution failed within a month in the previous year. So I decided not to go with a ‘resolution’ and truth is 2018 turned out to be an eventful year for me although there was no list to check. It’s been all in my head.
Moving forward as a form of accountability from lessons learned, from knowing the effect of having a resolution and not having any, I’ve put together three actionable and ultra-practical ways to turn goals to quests and then, results. So action!
Know what you want
This is very pivotal in our quest (goals should be more of a treasure we yen to discover both in the long and short run) to get the best from the new year. Other people’s opinion of what you should be or achieve shouldn’t necessarily become your reality and you being crystal on what you desire would turn out to be of great value. You’ve got to be firm big time cause it’s very easy to get carried away.
Knowing what you want should be narrowed down to specificity. It should not be I want to lose (or gain weight). Rather, it should be by the end of this (January to December) month, I lost (or gained) 5kg. It should not sound like I want to be successful. You know, everybody wants to be successful but where and what do you want to be successful at. Your work, your side hustle, at teaching, speaking, on the tracks. Narrowing our ‘goals’ down to the littlest details would enable us to stay more focused. That way we would not end up in the dilemma of wanting to do so many things and doing nothing.
Yeah, baby, I said that. One quote that trended this year is ‘never make someone a priority when all you are to them is an option’- Maya Angelou
Truth is everybody cannot be there for you always when you need them. Sometimes, you’ve got to be strong all by yourself and know that you are not alone. In the same vein, you’ve got to be selective with your attention. Amazingly, the new year is meant to be a different period of time for different persons like for every person that clocks a new age, he or she has begun a new year. We could be running the same race but our lanes differ.
Starting and journeying through the year shouldn’t be based on the reality of having so many options but in figuring out what and who works best for you. Remember, you’re on a quest.
‘Have the courage to follow your heart and intuition. They somehow know what you truly want to become.’ – Steve Jobs.
Take a step daily
The major reasons for setting a goal is to achieve a specific objective(s) and this cannot happen in a nanosecond. you’ve got to trust the process. You’ve got to trust your process.
Doing something every day and sometimes, nothing in a day helps to make every stage of the process worth it. As a writer, I can’t write a book in a day. I can only write a letter, a word, a paragraph, a chapter and then a book over a period of time. Rome was not built in a day (typing this made me look up pictures and facts about Rome and truth is, Rome is beautiful).
Bet on your strengths– Gary Vaynerchuk
So that’s a wrap. More like how bad do you want it?
Feel free to connect with me here and other amazing readers. What’s your take on new year resolutions and how has it worked for you? Let’s connect Rad. It would not be odd for me to say (I mean type) happy new year!!! 🙂
Stay confident Lovelies,