Let’s play a game. The blame game. Why did you not complete a particular task or why did we not get the result we ought to get?
Questions like that has over a thousand reply and way too many excuses. We’d always see who to share the blame with not wanting to take full responsibility for our actions and it’s consequences. Rather, it’s easier to push it to others and tell someone else to grow up while you’re still taking baby steps.
Every African knows African mothers and their disdain for excuses. They may not be putting much effort into being strict or being known as a stern person. However you know or understand them, excuses are not their thing. The same way a millennial would see something he or she does not like and not call it their ‘thing’.
Writing about African mothers not appreciating excuses and it got me thinking about my baby sister. She doesn’t know how to give them and I appreciate that about her (if you’re reading this baby sister, do not blush)smiles*. If asked, she’d probably not give a reply (which when I think about it now, isn’t funny) or she’d take action immediately. Now, this is domestic.
What about in our society, offices, amongst our cliques, places of work or in our country at large? How do we react? Rather are we more proactive than reactive when it comes to taking responsibilities? And what about our dreams. Do we spend enough time cooking up the best excuse to give?
One of the easiest thing to do in life is to play the blame game. Just so you know, this is the kind of game you play and there’s no chance of you winning. Honestly, it’s not worth your time.
GROWING UP IS FUN. LETS DO THIS.
You probably did not know what to do that’s why you did not do what you ought to do (that is me giving an excuse on your behalf and to be honest, how does it appeal to you?) Share please. That aside, one of my favorite quote from last year is ‘who you were yesterday, who you are today and who you are going to be tomorrow are three different persons’.
‘Maturity is when you stop complaining and making excuses in your life; you realize everything that happens in life is a result of the previous choice you’ve made and start making new choices to change your life’.- Roy T. Bennett
I do not know who said it. Saw it online and it has refused to leave me. We’ve got to grow with time, with our environment and with our actions too. Sometimes, it would be fun and sometimes, maybe not. Excuses shouldn’t be an excuse for you not to grow. Point taken, let’s move on. We’ve got to learn to take responsibility for the littlest things. That’s how we grow and not by playing the blame game.
‘Excuses aren’t really reasons, they’re just how we justify not pursuing what we want in life. We can only succeed when we stop telling ourselves why we can’t, and start living a life that shows we can’.- Royale Scuderi
YOU’VE GOT WEAKNESSES. KNOWN FACT. NOW, FOCUS ON YOUR STRENGTHS.
I was going to write some points which may include things like tell a friend, write out your fears in every form of honesty, be true to yourself and all that which are also very helpful.
On a second thought, it would only be fair to tell you that if you are ready to take the bulls by the horn and not do the easiest thing in the world – giving excuses.
I feel I’m being too flinty writing this article. So I’d go easy now.
Truth is, we can’t continue giving excuses and expect results. We have weaknesses, we are flawed and once we have acknowledge that, excuses may never matter again cause at that point, we become more aware of our strengths and what we can do to improve our lives.
Here’s one of my favorite verse from the Bible.
“My grace is sufficient for you, for My strength is made perfect in weakness.” 2 Corinthians 12:9.
So yeah, let it be me. Let it be because I did not make a move or take action and not because I’m too young, I don’t have enough time or money. Let it be me and not because it’s too late or too hard, risky, I’m not enough or I’m not smart and nobody will support me or my guts sucks and the economy is bad and blah blah blah. Rather, let it be me because I did not try. Let it be me.
‘Don’t you dare take the lazy way. It’s too easy to excuse yourself because of your ancestry. Don’t let me catch you doing it! Now — look close at me so you will remember. Whatever you do, it will be you who do’.- John Steinbeck
Who wants to take responsibility? smiles yay!
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Stay Confident Lovelies,